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  Interview with "Journey to God's House" author Brock Talon on JWStruggle

  by RayPublisher in

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  2. beliefs

  my interview with "journey to god's house" author brock talon is on my jwstruggle youtube channel.. brock talks about writing the book, his background as a former jw, and more.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvz-jxx4bpc.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I enjoyed the interview and I am almost through with the book, so far I have enjoyed it.
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  Feeling Disfellowshipped

  by meep5 in

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  2. friends

  let me briefly explain my back-story: i grew up in a jw household and was technically a jw until 20 years old.

  i stopped attending meetings in 1998 and told my parents i was done in 1999. i'm not sure where i saw my future when i was 19 but i know for a fact i didn't see myself as a "witness" then.

  i hated the hypocrisy and the extreme gossip.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome Meep,

  Most of us on here understand what you are going through. It is very difficult when your family shuns you and it is not a loving practice. It is good to hear you got out at a young age and got your life together.

  Congratulations on your new baby and it is so nice that you are raising your children to enjoy their life and to make something of themselves. You are fortunate that your family is out but you are right that it is hard for others to understand what it is like to be in a cult.

  Hang in there and we are here to listen.
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  Thank you Simon - My Post Count is back !

  by LoisLane looking for Superman in

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  2. tech-support

  we all have our gifts.

  and it work is one of yours, not mine.

  lol

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  Aunt Fancy

  Thanks Simon, I too missed the post count and happy to see it back!
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  Reverse-Witnessing leaves me mentally and emotionally drained...

  by ILoveTTATT in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi dear friends!.

  i am doing some stealth reverse-witnessing, and i have succeeded in at least two people seeing ttatt, one being my friend and the other being my dad (although my dad has a longer route to take to exit the wts, and i have to slowly chip away at the illusion).... the illusion of jw's is very strong.

  they give an illusion of being moral and decent people, and that may be true just because the majority of the people they attract are just being deceived, or i really like to believe that and hope for the best.. what i hate and leaves me emotionally drained are jw apologists.

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  Aunt Fancy

  When my hubby and I first found out about TTATT we felt the same way you did, and we wanted to help others out. We were able to help a few but we soon realized that we wanted to live our life and do other things with it. I remember we were thinking of everyone we could help out and it became an obsession with us but I think you will soon realize there is very little you can do for most of them and just be there for those coming out who may need some help. Continue to try to help those you think are on the edge but be careful because you could end up branded as an apostate when you aren't ready for that step. There are ways to help those who have left because they are still haunted by the lies and some have never researched even though they have left. This is an area we have been able to help some in. We are trying to be balanced and hopefully you will soon get this in balance. It is a good quality to help others out and you are very young so go out and enjoy your life and make new friends and maybe find a charity that you are interested in and help others. You will also find that it is a roller coaster ride. When we first left my emotions were all over the place and now after a year they are settling down some and there aren't nearly as many bad days. We are always here for you.
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  The final chapter in the confusedandalone story...

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this morning i get a frantic call from my sister (who has been baptized 1 year and one month and never attends meetings anymore).

  in tears she tells me that this morning my father picked her up in the car and told her that i was am apostate.

  that i no longer loved jehovah and that i was going to be disfellowshipped.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow CAA, you have been through a lot. I too would never sit down and let three men interrogate me and try to make me feel bad about my life. You are not a coward, you choose not to let them abuse you and your family in any way. Your Dad sure has made a complete 180 since this started.

  from what you wrote it sounds like your new employee is opening her eyes.

  By the way, my husband enjoys what Terry writes too!

  You have to be in a lot of pain and it is a roller coaster ride but keep doing what you are doing and it will get better. We are a year faded and things are much better than they were a year ago. It does get a lot better. The anger does die down with time.
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  Effect of family life (me, wife and young boy) if I am df / da and wife zealous jw

  by Daniel1555 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have a question and hope to hear some experiences of you who went or are going through this situation:.

  actually for several reasons (blood policy, disfellowshipping policy and some more) my conscience is telling me quite strongly, that i should not anymore be a part of that organization.. my wife and even elders know about my doubts (except blood policy).

  however i continue to join the meetings actually just to please my wife and to be together with our baby boy.

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  Aunt Fancy

  A lot of excellent advice was given. You need to start reading the books and websites recommended by others because it will really help you get the programing out of your head and it will help you get your wife out. I started doing the research and I was able to get my husband to read Crisis of Conscience and after that he read everything he could get his hands on and we came out together. I would not DA myself either because you are playing into their hands. They want you to do that so it weakens you and they want control over you. You need to help your wife out and in the mean time you can make new friends. Once your son is in school you will meet all kinds of people especially if he is involved in sports. He deserves to be able to play sports and do fun things that JW's can't do. You also want him to get a good education especially in this day and age. You will also find that because you are seeing the lies you will have a hard time being around them in social settings especially as you make new friends. You are young, get out now while you still have a lot of good years ahead of you. One of the things my husband and I did was take things slowly and it has worked to our advantage. At this point I could care less if they DF'd us but at least we went out on our terms

  I wish you the best and hang in there because it is a roller coaster ride!!

  Aunt Fancy
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  The final chapter in the confusedandalone story...

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this morning i get a frantic call from my sister (who has been baptized 1 year and one month and never attends meetings anymore).

  in tears she tells me that this morning my father picked her up in the car and told her that i was am apostate.

  that i no longer loved jehovah and that i was going to be disfellowshipped.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I have been following your ordeal since you started posting your story. I am so sorry you are going through this and that your family is acting so unloving. I think what you are doing is the right thing for you, your wife and children. It is sad you will lose your parents and siblings but they have not acted like a Christian should. I will never understand treating your child in the maner they have. I know it is very painful but like you said you have a wonderful wife by your side and your children.

  Go out and enjoy your life, you are young and you have the opportunity to bring your children up without the control of this cult. The freedom is wonderful but there are heartaches along the way.

  Hang in there and we are always here for you when you need us. Enjoy your cigars!!
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  What makes a "Quality Apostate Website"?

  by ILoveTTATT in

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  2. friends

  i would like everyone's opinion on this:.

  what makes a "quality" apostate website?

  what makes it bad quality?.

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  Aunt Fancy

  When I was just starting to wake up I read a number of books and then found C of C and if I am correct he mentioned some websites. Books were an eye opener for me but then once I found JWN, JWfacts, JW Sruggle, JWsurvey Freedom of Mind and a few others they really put things together and filled in the blanks.
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  Last night the one cool elder calls me

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i figured he was going to arrange the committee and try to get me kicked out after the whole "big pile of books" labelled "take this shit".. well his call made me realize that more and more people ... elders included no longer take this religion seriously.

  after he told me he heard what happened he actually laughed and said i would never expect that.

  he then told me that it is apparent that i no longer want to be connected to the organization.

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  Aunt Fancy

  The decision you are making is a huge one and I had the same thoughts as you do. We have been fading for a year now and sometimes I feel like I should just DA myself and get it over with. We have taken our time with everything to make sure we are making the right decisions for our life. Someone posted that to DA would be playing their game and you don't owe the WTBTS anything and it really made me think. They are right you would be playing by their rules and doing exactly what they want you to. On the other hand I also realize we are still on their books so to speak and that does bother me at times that I am still connected to them.

  I would not go on a fishing trip with them because you have moved on and to listen to all of their nonscense would really probably bother you. Why put up with listening to all of the cult talk and you will find you have nothing in common any longer. When we just started to fade we had dinner with our very good "friends" and we came home and both of us said we did not enjoy them like we use to because their way of talking and what they talked about was so weird to us now. Even if it is a free trip I don't think it is orth it. Besides you can't smoke the cigars you love!! :) LOL

  Hang in there!
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  Another story... possibly final story

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is the exchange of text messages i had with my super spiritual brother.

  it is sad... it is pathetic... it has helped me realize that i have no connection to these people anymore.

  i feel free today.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow C&A, I am sorry you are going through this. Your brother is not a nice person and it is so nasty what he did. I think you need to do what makes you feel good and what your conscience allows you to do. You have a lot to think about and I would take your time so that you make the right decision for you and your immediate family.